Today I had an appointment with my cpn. He came to mine, he normally does as it’s easier for us both and it’s on his way home. He was a bit late but that was ok. We chatted about things and where I’m at. We spoke about Christmas and things. He asked about the plans I had before Christmas regarding property etc and I said the plans are still in place and how I’m hitting goals etc. He told me how impressed and in awe of how I’ve done and how much I can do. He’s pretty amazed at how well I cope and how I keep myself well. We even talked about possibly going med free at some point. He’s a really nice bloke but in a way I hope I don’t see him again in a professional manner because I’m now discharged from mental health services! I’m discharged! That’s so cool. I’m really happy. It’s shown me how far I’ve come and how much I’ve worked through. I can get referred back to services by my GP if I ever need to in the future, I was discharged before briefly, but I’m hoping that this time it’s permanant or certainly much much longer! I’m getting used to feeling this well and being level isn’t so boring after all. I still have lots of good energy and I have my DRIVE back again. I have some direction and lots of goals to hit. It’s all good.
I’ve taken this morning off work but possibly all day. I’ve been feeling rough since Saturday with a cough and some virus thing. I fought it off about 3 times before Christmas with my mind. I was too busy to be unwell and didn’t allow my mind to think about it. I’m still really busy but don’t have drastic deadlines to meet and as it’s shown it’s head a bit again I’ve decided to allow it to come through a bit. My body is telling me I need a short rest. I felt really unwell until about 11 yesterday morning but stopped myself thinking about it until after work when I felt rubbish again. One thing that I’m pleasantly surprised about is that it’s not affected my mental health because in the past it would of done. I have lots of drive again and lots of goals and I think this is partly why it’s not affecting me. I might go in to work this afternoon. I’m unsure at the moment though. I might not go to band practice either as it’ll finish late. I cancelled my drumming lesson yesterday as I knew it might affect the virus thing.
Yesterday I knew something and had a feeling I was right but didn’t feel the need to check until late last night. It was a concious decision not to too. Here is a post from 2 years ago on January 2nd. It shows where I was and shows me how far I’ve come:
This morning I’ve made myself stick to my routine and woke up at 6:15am. I finished work a few days ago and it would be so easy to lay in and let myself do much less than normal but I don’t want that. I want to keep my focus on where I am heading with life and not slip backwards into past ways and thoughts.
In September I set myself the goal of getting out of my business overdraft by the end of the year, even if it was only briefly. A few weeks later I did it so set a higher goal. I wanted £8k in the business by the end of the year. A month or so later I did that too, although I did spend it out on wages and materials and did go back into the overdraft for a few days. So having hit that goal, and going back into the overdraft briefly, I decided to aim for having £10k in the business by the end of the year. On Friday I hit £9,821! I have bills out and am owed close to £1k. Even if by 31st I don’t quite hit £10k I’m still more than pleased at how I’ve turned things around, and a good amount of that money isn’t mine, that I’m setting much bigger goals from now onwards.
I’ve realised I’m looking forwards much more than looking back now. Although this morning I sat in front of the fire and had a fight with my thinking. I wasn’t fully awake and my thoughts were slightly gloomy and were about all of the worst stuff I’ve done in life and how my upbringing was. So I caught those thoughts and told them I’m in charge now and that I’m not putting up with any of it. Such a strange thing to be able to do now and such an amazing thing too. I’ve since sat down and written out some life goals and will also add to my daily goals shortly, which I set down last night.
How amazing how life can change. It is true that the path of life flows where attention and focus go. Something else I find strangely amusing and very amazing is that this blog, this thing of me just writing my thoughts, my feelings, my crapiness, my awesomeness, my joy, my goals and some of my life in has almost 5,000 subscribers. It blows my mind a little. More than a little in fact.
For anyone reading this and needing some help please go and find some help it really is out there but it’s also inside too. Keep going as it can and does get better the more you put in too. For everybody reading this I send my best wishes to you all on what the calendar says is Christmas Eve. Much love.
I had a sleep when I got in yesterday after work. It’s made a huge difference as I felt grotty and tired. I felt like I was coming down with a cold or something. I went to bed early too. Today I feel good again and everything is great. I did feel tiredabout9:30am but it soon passed. I’m still getting up around 6am.
I’m finishing work tomorrow for the Christmas holidays and it’s good. I could do with the short break and I can reasses my goals while off work. I’ll also practice drumming more. I need to keep on top of it again as I’m in a local band now. I’m going to write out more goals and keep pushing towards bigger ones. I know there will be side steps and also some setbacks in some ways but I’ll keep going and accept its part of life. Life is short enough without me holding myself back, punishing myself or taking things far too seriously. I’ve accepted I could get unwell again and that’s something I’ll face when or if it happens. My plan to stay well means keeping a few things in check and watching over myself a lot more than I realised but that’s all ok. Having some passion and drive in life is helping with that.
Last Wednesday I was late to bed as I had my first band practice/audition. I played for close to 3 hours and it went well but it meant I was later to bed and that coupled with excitement made me more tired than usual. I still got up as usual on the Thursday.
Friday night I went to bed reasonably early to nip tiredness in the bud but I had a slight pain in my right side. I fell sleep easily enough, as usual, but Rhiannon came in and woke me by jumping on the bed a bit. I’ve no idea what was going on. Anyway about 11:45 I woke up with pain in my side. Not an ache but biliary colic again. It wasn’t severe like before and I think it was caused by being tired, working lots lately and not drinking enough from the Wednesday onwards. I came down and lay on the sofa after lots of shuffling around in bed. I eventually dozed off and woke again about 2am and went back to bed. I still got up as usual around 6 am and went to work.
The rest of Saturday I was very grouchy and snappy. I knew I had to get some rest as I could see where it could head to fast if I didn’t and there’s no way I wanted to get to that state or place in my head and mental health. So yesterday I slept until 7:30am and had a slightly relaxed day. I still got lots done but this morning, after another good nights sleep, I feel rested and ready for my day ahead.
I’m going to work until Thursday evening at the latest this week. Then take time off before and after Christmas. Over Christmas I’m going to keep to my routine of getting up early otherwise it makes it harder in January mentally and also it throws so much of normality out for me. While off I’m going to get a few things done at home, at the field and at the allotments to keep myself focused. I’m also going to go through my goals for each week, month, year and years ahead and fine tune them a little more.
One goal I had for the end of this year was to get my business out of its overdraft, it had been in it for the last 3 years. I was £9938 into a £10k overdraft on 4th September this year and having only £60 available scared me, BUT it gave me huge focus and incentive to do it. About a month later I did it. I got out of the overdraft. So I changed my goal. I decided I wanted £8k in the business before December 31st. About a month ago I had almost £7k in the business in the black not the red and changed my goal to £10k in there instead. It’s down to just over £3k at the minute but with some money that’s owed, some bills I have just sent out and a bill I can make out in a day or two I have a ‘theoretical’ balance of about £11k! A huge chunk of it will be for materials, VAT (which goes out mid February) , the plumber and the electrician but of pretty much done it! Amazing but it’s given me even more drive to get more goals ticked off like clearing my personal credit card (which I’ve switched to a 0% interest card on balance transfers), to get out of my personal overdraft, to look to get a loan paid off and then to get a lot of money together to do some things with to increase my income.
I guess my point is that if one can get mentally well or ‘stable’ and use the energy, drive and passion they have to get focused on good goals they can turn things around. I write out daily goals as well as bigger ones. I even wrote out daily work goals and weekly work goals. It’s a great feeling seeing them get ticked off.
I’m tired today. It’s all good and work is good too. I made a mistake on an invoice this morning due to tiredness but I’ll rest well tonight. I’m getting on top of things really well now and am pushing for the future. I’m keeping my routine pretty strict and it’s amazing how it’s paying off. It all starts with a good morning routine.
I had an email today about the band. They’re practicing tomorrow and asked me to go along to play. I’ve chatted on the phone with one of them and they sound quite keen. All good stuff.
Lifes good. I’m pushing forwards.
I went along to a live music evening in our village last week to meet someone who’s band need a drummer. I know the guy too so that’s good. When they next get together to practice they’ll let me know so I can go along and have a play/practice with them.
I’m pushing my business along as well and am keeping my eyes out for a mentor so I can go to the next level. Maybe I’ll get advice from a few people. I’m keeping more than on top of work too and I put a lot of my keeping well and keeping focused down to good circadian rhythms started off by a really good morning routine. Getting good sleep, writing goals down daily for each day and furtherahead helps me focus too. Good structure. It’s good.
Everything is awesome.
I worked some of yesterday. I couldn’t do one of the jobs as the chimney was too tall to fit the cowl on my own but I’ll go back and fit it with someone else. The guy also wants other work doing too so all good. Afterwards I took my son to the beach and we did some casting practice then fished a bit. We packed up after a few hours and went to another beach to fish. He loved it. We got home before 9pm and I wasn’t late to bed. It’s all good.
This morning I slept in until 7:28am, just before the alarm I had set, got up, drank some tea, went to the allotments just after 8 and then went home for breakfast. Just after 9:20am we drove to the city and I’m waiting for a haircut. It’s the first time in a few years that I’ve had a proper haircut rather than just shaving it all off to bald or stupidly short. It’s made me realise how good my mental health is now. I figure I’m really getting back to being myself. I want to look smart again instead of not caring. Yesterday I had shave too. I want to look good for myself and customers. I’m attracting good things to me in life again.
Everything is awesome
I’ve got my second head cold in 2 or so weeks and it’s slowed me slightly but not much at all. I won’t let it.
I’m really busy and taking more and more on. I’m pushing my business along again and am increasing what I’m doing. I’m heading towards needing someone to come work for me. I’ll still keep pushing more and more. I need to get a website again for my building business plus I’m looking at ways of increasing income to help with my plans, and as a safety net. I’m looking into something online like possibly selling things like tee shirts but other ways too. I’m looking at getting my van sign written again so everywhere I drive I’m advertising myself.
I’ve had several years where I couldn’t face any of this and I figure if you’re not moving forwards you’re going backwards. I’ve been to scared and too unwell but now things are good I need to keep going. I’m setting some very high goals to achieve in the next month, the next year and then onwards. Some are short term but they’re all adding up to longer term goals. I’ve spoken with my accountant about them and he’s said to keep doing what I’m doing and he also said how well I am compared to last time we met. I’ve spoken with a mortgage adviser about buying properties to let. I’m doing the groundwork now instead of last minute or late, these goals are longer term, which I normally would. Leaving things late puts pressure on me and makes me make rash decisions. Everything from now onwards has to be pre planned and I know that things will go smoother but I’ll still have things to face. I’m not looking at what might go wrong, anxiety, and I’m not looking at past mistakes, depression, or tying myself in knots. I’ve written clear plans down but need to hone and fine tune them. It feels amazing to be able to do this. I’m also aware that I might get unwell again and that’s why I’m doing this too. It will take the pressure off if it happens.
Life is good.